LittleMan and I were on our way to pick up BoopaLoop from pre-school on Friday when LittleMan made this announcement.
LittleMan - I don't want to get married.
Me - Well... that's a good thing since you are too young to be married. You're only 6.
LittleMan - [Exasperated] Nooo, mom. I mean even when I get old and grow'd up. I don't want to be married.
Me - [Not that concerned about his announcement, but I was curious] Oh. Why?
LittleMan - I don't want to yell at someone all the time.
Me - [?!?!?!?!?!] Uh... [!?!?!?!?!?!] Do you think Mommy and Daddy yell all the time?
LittleMan - [Distracted] Yeah...
Me - Really?! [!?!?!?!?!?!?]
LittleMan - [Returning his focus to me] Uh... [thinking about it] well, my friend Andrew said that he didn't want to get married since his parents yell all the time.
Me - [Oh boy!] Well, you have heard Mommy and Daddy argue before, right?
LittleMan - Yeah.
Me - But we always say we are sorry and that we love each other afterwards, right?
LittleMan - [Grinning] Yeah.
Me - [Grinning back] Well, when people who love each other live together arguing is part of it, but you learn how to argue to not hurt each other but to talk about your differences.
LittleMan - [Getting bored] Yeah...
I definitely lost him at this point in the conversation, but it got me thinking about My Mukor and I. Yes, we argue, kiss, laugh, play and all other manner of things in front of the kids, but I was paranoid that we were showing too much disagreement in front of them. I couldn't imagine that we were, but I felt like we were on notice.
The other question is do I tell Andrew's mom what LittleMan said? If it were reversed, would I want to know? I'd like to think that the answer to question two is a resounding YES, but...
Should I tell her?
Oh, by the way, I just now asked LittleMan again about marriage:
Me - Do you still feel like Mommy and Daddy yell all the time?
LittleMan - Yeah.
Me - [WOW - this is brutal] When was the last time you heard us yell?
LittleMan - It was a while ago, but I still don't want to get married.
Me - When Mommy and Daddy argue, how would you like us to fix it?
LittleMan - Well, maybe you can go in a pattern.
Me - [??]
LittleMan - You know, you say a grievance-es and then Daddy.
Me - Huh, that's a good idea, honey. I'll talk to Daddy about it.